Relationship downfalls
One of the biggest downfalls I see in relationships is sourcing our sense of self-worth and lovability through another person.
Pop culture is saturated with music and movies piping cliché messages of, "You complete me; I'd be lost without you; you're everything to me; I'm nothing without you."
This is PROBLEMATIC, beloveds!
Why?
These messages have programmed us from a young age on a deeply subconscious level in a way to seek fulfillment in a way that can never succeed.
We are inherently worthy simply because we EXIST. Because of our INNATE DIVINITY.
Hinging our self-worth upon our desirability, attractiveness, and acceptance from other people (and even worse, from ONE person, putting all our eggs in one basket) makes for a fragile, fragmented, human being that is constantly seeking from without to fill a void within that is perpetually leaking.
It leads to a grasping, needy energy that is dependent on the outside world to fill our cup.
The outside world is fleeting, ever-changing, out of our control. The only constant is US, and the divinity that streams through us in each moment, with each breath.
If you source your self-worth in another, your world will fall apart when turmoil rattles the security blanket of your "love." You will resist the changes you and your lover go through that feel threatening to the status quo, rendering your "love" conditional.
If you source your passion for life in another, the void will get louder when the novelty wears off, and you will look for someone "better" to fill the insatiable hunger that is impossible for another person to fill.
If you feel empty when not connecting with another person, it's time to find connection with the vital life-force that animates your being into existence.
Find what makes you come ALIVE, what inspires you and piques your curiosity, beckoning you to dig deeper into the infinite caverns of your soul.
Not only will you find stunning riches of soulful nourishment, you will have these to offer to a beloved so that your relationship can expand beyond the shallow dead-end story of relationship we've been sold, and instead blossom into a sanctuary for you both to grow, thrive, and deepen into sacred union within YOURSELF and each other..
And from this place, you will be fulfilled, both with or without a lover. THIS will empower you to only give yourself to relationships that HONOR and RESPECT you, rather than desperately holding on to something that's not working because it's "all you have."
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