An Amazing Sex Life Is A TEAM Effort
If your partner is unwilling to meet you or work with you where you are NOW, they're not the right partner for you, at least not at this time.
If your lover can't celebrate your process and support you on your journey, they don't deserve the fruits of your labor.
A common question amongst my male clients is whether or not they should share with their lovers (existing, new, or yet-to-be) about their work with me to cultivate sexual mastery, and or overcome insecurities and blockages.
There's often a fear it will make them look weak or inexperienced. It can be a vulnerable thing to share, especially if they're working through major challenges.
But vulnerability is courageous and being comfortable enough in your own skin to own that you're putting in the work to be your best self is SEXY. Self-work is not indicative of incompetence, but rather commitment to your best life.
I can't tell you how many women are ecstatic to hear that there are enough men out there doing this work when they learn that I specialize in working with men, which is usually followed by the question: Who are these men, can you connect me!?
Sexual empowerment work for women has been trending for a while and women have become loud and proud in their explorations of sexual liberation. It's amazing!
Can we give a round of applause to the men who are doing this work, too? Can we celebrate them for having the courage and commitment to doing their part?
Relationship is a 2way street. Blaming the opposite sex for our frustrations gets us nowhere. Taking responsibility for our own piece is the pathway to creating the thriving relationships we desire.
Ladies, men are up against a lot of heavy programming, often lack any real sexual or relational education, and are under a lot of pressure to "perform." It's not an easy path. Give them grace. Support them on their journey. An amazing sex life is a TEAM effort.
Men, women have programming & traumas as well. Do your part to learn how to support them & you’ll find it's a win-win.
Inviting your beloved to be a part of your journey allows it to be a co creative, supportive journey.