The Root Of Dysfunctions

Ever had a fear or anxiety that seemed to self-perpetuate in a negative feedback loop?

The more you thought about it, the more it seemed to become a problem? Maybe even to the point that it seemed like you were manifesting your worst fear simply just by worrying it would happen?

Worrying is praying for what you DON’T want to happen, and where attention goes, energy flows.

I see this pattern in the men I work with all the time when it comes to sexual performance.

Perhaps they’ve had instances where they couldn’t get it up when it was time to play, or they ended the party as soon as they came.

These situations were so embarrassing and disappointing to them (and sometimes to their lovers), that they grew nervous it would happen again, and overtime, it became a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The body and the unconscious mind are one in the same, and the unconscious mind doesn’t understand negatives. So if you’re worried about NOT lasting long enough, or NOT being able to get hard, that’s all your unconscious mind and body can focus on. Like when I tell you NOT to think of a pink elephant, what did you just think of…?

Exactly.

What’s even more fascinating, is sometimes we’re not even conscious that we’re putting energy towards the opposite of the result we want!

While some men are consciously aware of their performance anxiety, other men have unconscious psychological or emotional blockages that are disrupting the flow of their sexual energy, that don’t have to do with performance anxiety.

What I've found with the men that I work with, is that sexual "dysfunctions" like Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation and anorgasmia are almost ALWAYS rooted psychologically, emotionally or energetically, and that once we fix the root of the problem, rather than slapping a band-aid on it like Viagra, the physical problem follows suit and self-corrects.

There are several physical health issues that can be at the root of these "dysfunctions," but the practices we work with can still be incredibly supportive.

Stay tuned for my next posts where I'll get into the roots of all this on a deeper level, including the ones that are not related to performance anxiety.